We all chase after money, power, and fame. We are somehow conditioned to believe that these external markers are synonymous with happiness. The more we have these things, the happier we will become. But really ask yourself, is this the only way to achieve genuine happiness? Don’t you think there are healthier and more contented ways to achieve true happiness? In this blog, we will explore how we can shift our mindset from chasing worldly possessions to finding true happiness within ourselves.
The Trap of Postponing Happiness
A related issue is discussed by the Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius, who offers a profound insight. He advises us to ask ourselves, “What in this very moment is upsetting you? What in this very moment is wrong?” If you really think deeply about it, you will find that your worries are not immediate but future possibilities that you consider threats and that may never come to pass. You don’t really focus on the present moment with what you have. Focus on it. You will find that many of our anxieties are not as significant as we make them out to be. Relax.
The Illusion of Money and Success
We often say, “If I have financial security and this much wealth, I will be happy forever.” We give wealth so much importance. Money can provide comfort and security, no doubt about it, but it is not the highest good. To illustrate this, imagine you are being offered a large sum of stolen money with no risk of getting caught. Most people would refuse it because it violates their sense of justice and fairness. This proves that we hold certain virtues like honesty and justice in higher regard than money. To shift this mindset a bit, money will not make you happy; making money will make you happy.
These virtues—honesty, kindness, justice—are already within us. They are not something that can be given or taken away. We are in full control of how we represent these virtues. But you really need to consider that these internal values are the highest good. When you realize this, you will understand that true happiness is already within our grasp.
Living in the Present
Living in the present moment is completely destroyed by thinking and worrying about the future. These are scenarios that may never really come to pass. This continuous and slowly growing anxiety prevents us from appreciating the present moment and the happiness it can offer. By shifting our focus to the present, we can see that many of our problems are not as pressing as we think. Things like work stress or personal conflicts might feel huge, but when we look at the bigger picture, they often don’t matter as much. Recognizing this helps us to live more mindfully and contentedly.
The Virtues Within Us
What type of personality or character would you want people to know about you? You would like to be known as someone who is honest, kind, and just, right? If you don’t consider yourself one, you need to make these things part of your character. When you are praised for having a noble character, it will be more rewarding and will lead to more happiness and peace. Possess these virtues because they will allow you to approach life’s challenges with a sense of calm and integrity. For example, you can pursue wealth or career success; it’s not inherently wrong. However, it should not come at the expense of your core values. Strive for success while maintaining your principles. You will achieve a more balanced and fulfilling life.
The Misconception of Sacrifice
This doesn’t mean that if you have these virtues, you are giving up worldly success. Just be content and at peace with yourself, and that will make you better equipped to pursue your ambitions. Someone who can approach their goals with a clear head and a calm heart may be more successful than someone who is desperate for money and recognition. Adopting this perspective not only makes success more likely, but it also guarantees that the journey will be enjoyable, memorable, and less stressful.
Practical Tips for Finding Happiness
If you really understand these concepts, try implementing them in your daily lives; it can be really transformative. Practice makes things better, so try practicing happiness. Here are some practical tips to help you shift your mindset and find true happiness:
Gratitude Journaling
Instead of reaching for your phone first thing in the morning, can you dedicate five to ten minutes each morning to writing down three things you’re grateful for? You are starting your day with something positive. This simple act can shift your focus and your mindset towards the positive aspects of your life and promote an appreciation for what you already have. For instance, you might note that your friend was there for you and you appreciate her a lot, or maybe the beauty of a sunny day, or a personal or work accomplishment. Over time, this practice can rewire your brain to notice and value the positive elements in your life. You are sending signals to your brain that are positive, and that will create an overall positive attitude in the long run.
Virtue-Based Activities
Schedule activities that allow you to personify your core values. It can be weekly or monthly based on how busy your schedule is. If kindness is important to you, volunteer at a local charity. If honesty is a priority, practice having open and truthful conversations with loved ones. These actions reinforce your values and contribute to a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
Personal Story
In my own life, I used to prioritize work over spending time with family. Even if I had time for my family, I would not utilize it to spend it with them. I only had work thoughts, and later I became drained. However, after a personal wake-up call, I realized the importance of cherishing relationships, and how time spent with close ones can somehow subconsciously or indirectly uplift your mood, which then becomes something positive for work. Now, I schedule dedicated family time and find greater happiness in these connections than in any work achievement. This shift has not only strengthened my relationships but also enriched my overall sense of well-being.
If you really deeply think about your happiness, it is actually that you like making people happy, which makes you happy. Think about this. It’s not about you. It’s a world that has everything related to you. And you want to see them happy. And that makes you happy.